It's almost as if I wrote this myself. I'm in a relationship that I hope turns into a long-term relationship and I'm constantly thinking about what I'm doing. Is this true? I don't feel right. Is that normal or just anxiety? Are my obsessive thoughts playing games with me? He's gonna see other people. He read my message but didn't reply. He's gonna leave me. He's bored with me. Blah, blah, blah, you get it perfectly!

I honestly can't tell you the truth of the matter in this situation because I'm not observing both of your behaviors/thoughts/feelings.

All I really do about it is try to rationalize my worries about my relationship & be realistic. He shouldn't always be messaging me. He can have other friends. I can have other friends. He has flaws. I have flaws. It's just a matter of what those flaws are and if I can manage with said flaws.

Earlier today he told me that he often gets distracted while talking to me and I thought "So I'm really not that great. He's getting distracted."
But that might not be the case at all. Maybe he's just depressed or easily distracted in general. I could be wrong.

I wish I knew what to tell you. My advice is to rationalize as much as you can. Weigh the pros and the cons of the relationship. In fact, maybe you should weigh the pros and the cons alone and then confront him about them & ask him what he thinks. Don't be rude about it. Simply just say "Hey, I don't like x because x makes me feel this way." See how it goes.

& if you really want to maybe see a counselor together...? I honestly am not sure.

Sorry about the long post. I just am happy to find somebody who experiences something similar to I do! Good luck with what you end up doing. Wishing the best for you!