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Originally Posted by Big Mama
"Actually reading "It is natural for humans to calm themselves when upset by clinging to another person." That statement sends me into EEEK mode to. I have been learning to pay attention to where your body holds trauma. I can feel a tingling sensation and a tension between my shoulders and across the top of my shoulders. Strange how our bodys store trauma's. That is part of why it is so difficult to accept touch. Our muscles are tight and ready for the flight, fight or freeze response.
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I hate saying this and wondering if i should put it in the trigger code but i very often have a flashback of something that was done to me and have pain in that same place...down there...
The pain goes away on its own but it usually stays for sometimes days and its so weird cuz nothing physically caused it...now i mean...unless i do it but im talking about when i dont do it...
I found out on another site that im on (which will always be nameless) that im not alone with that. Actually googling it, trying to help someone on that site with how to help it as i dont know how to help or stop it, is how i found this site...accidently...
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If no one else gets it, We get it, and I am so glad your T gets it.
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My therapist seems to get everything and thats so weird to me...before him, i never thought anyone would "get" me...
He's been my therapist for 7 yrs but he never stops amazing me of the things he gets. Like my entire family was freaking out on me cuz i came on to my cousin by marriage and my therapist knew at the time about my past (took me a year to tell him why i was really there but i think this was about 4 or so yrs in) and my dad went with me to therapy and my therapist exact word were "of course you did"...like it was so darn obvious. I think he had to pick my jaw off the ground...
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Good for you for letting one tear escape. That is a start. Weather you meant for it to or not, the fact that it did is huge. Either you let it or your body did what it was designed to do. Either way that is a huge praise. Things are happening and changing one little step and tear at a time. You are gonna get through this.
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It was weird...def not on purpose...and im like "what is this?" It was weird to me...
Def huge though.
Thank you for your reply. I hope im not taking over this thread. I appologize if i am