confused4ever, that sounds like a really difficult session. Too much, too soon. Do you think because your T put you under hypnosis that you became unable to tell him to "stop, you're going too fast"? Maybe you need to be more conscious when you try to access your inner child so that you have more control? There are quite a few techniques for accessing your inner child that do not involve hypnosis. Could your therapist work with these techniques?
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He emailed me back tonight, apologizing for the session going so wrong, he does believe me
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confused, that seems like an interesting comment to me. Why wouldn't your therapist believe you? Has he doubted your feelings and experiences of therapy in the past?
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I just felt like he was firing all these questions at me, and he was doubting me.
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Why would he doubt you? He thinks you are not being honest? I think it would be good to talk with him about how you feel he doubts your words and doesn't believe you. It is hard to have a trusting relationship with a therapist who doesn't trust you.
I am sorry about the email thing. Your T may have had every intention of encouraging your emails and responding to them when he invited you to email him. But then he got busier, or maybe he told all his clients that and his email box is busting full. I think he was being honest to tell you he couldn't get back to you right away. It will help you to clarify this policy with him.
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Right now I don't want to go to Wednesday's session, and even if he emails back and says everything is fine, I am going to cancel!!!!
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What I'm going to say is different from what others here have recommended. Sometimes when we have a really, really strong feeling about something, it is best to go with our gut. If you are not ready for another session so soon, skip a week. You are not bailing out of therapy or anything, just need a little more time to recover and process. It's OK. You can return the following week. I went through something similar once, when I was doing couples therapy with my husband. One week was just not enough time following a really intense session. It helped to not push things and give ourselves a few more days before seeing T again.
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