Once again I must say I agree with Gaar. Thankyou.

What Gaar was suggesting comes from a therapy called CBT - Cognative Behaviour Therapy. Finding a therapist who specializes in this may be what you seek in therapy.

CBT deals with distortions stemming from negative core beliefs and gives you strategies to challenge them.

I myself have benefited immensely and just can't say enough about how wonderful I think it is - BUT, as I've said before, it takes committment and work.