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Originally Posted by LauraBeth
Sounds like either a lousy listener or a jackas$.
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Originally Posted by Zbeara
See, that's a problem that ANYONE would think that. Calling a guy a jacka$$ and a lousy listener in this context is SO rude. It's completely invalidating what he has experienced. Did you even read what she said? She pointed out, how his past life affected it. How would you feel if you were in his position and someone said that?
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Thank you Zbeara - I was quite shocked by the bluntness of LauraBeth's response. I kind of get it though because he doesn't naturally hear successfully (which could quite easily be translated as a 'lousy listener') and his actions have caused problems (which I suppose makes him difficult to live with ... and therefore a j-a to some degree) .... but LB's outburst didn't help or enlighten in any way
Thank you for reading my words and being able to see both sides of our experience in this. He didn't choose to be this way. It's just frustrating that it took so long to identify it for what it possibly is and the repercussions and..... now if only there was a practical solution ....
We are comfortable with each other in almost every other respect but just feel like we are walking on eggshells when he misunderstands me ..