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Originally Posted by Nickname
I think you are courageous that you decided to act on your situation, and put your life on track. Congratulations.
I just want to add on another thread, someone said that she has everything she needed but a relationship. Ironically some people (whom I am aware of) who said to her to be content by herself and live her life were in a relationship!! I believe people try to help, but they tend to see things from their own experiences and situations.
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Thank you. I appreciate this.
And yes! This is something that struck me as I was doing my laundry today (haha, I have my deepest thoughts while doing the most mundane things). I get that a lot--people asking why I feel I need a relationship. 7 years ago, when I decided to kind of stop the search and cultivate my relationship with myself, so to speak, it was my friends saying it: "Why do you need someone? Maybe you should stop looking." And the people saying that were married. I totally get that it was because I was in an unhealthy place. However, it is a little unfair that they get to have love in their lives, yet they are basically telling me that I can't, that they are questioning and invalidating my desire for it when we
all desire love and all that goes along with it! When people question you about it, it makes you feel like you are somehow wrong for wanting that or that you aren't good enough to have that. It's very shame-inducing.
Those are just the things that came up in my mind. While I totally understand where it's coming from, it does make the person being questioned feel a certain kind of way.