I got a divorce after 31 years of physical and verbal abuse; it was the scariest thing I ever did. Being alone was my biggest fear and I have been alone for 12 years."

It's sounds like you were really strong to do this .... even if it was really scary!

"I have a 3 year old granddaughter, and every year the birthday party is at the x's house; It is SUCH a trigger for me; I spend 4-5 hours in such misery. No one has any idea how I am feeling."

Is there no-one in your family you can share your fears and feelings with?

"When I go to x's house for any activity (not often); it takes so much out of me, that I don't feel like myself for days. Thank you for any thoughts!