Thank you all for your insight. I know that I need to speak up and verbalize what I am feeling. This seems to be a barrier that I need to push through in order to make progress. I think my husband was able to drop his defenses and express himself and that's why his needs were addressed. My sons confidence and behavior is improving also as a result of her intervention. I guess I can't complain about therapy, if I don't speak up for myself. I think the fact that I really don't know what I'm feeling or wanting from one minute to the next is a big part of the problem. I think I've opened up a can of worms by seeking therapy myself. However my unhappiness is compelling me to continue regardless of how uncomfortable I am. The therapist I chose has been nothing but kind and empathic and has proven that she is trustworthy and will not disclose private information even to my husband. When I look at things logically, the problem likely lies with me not her. I guess I just need take your advise and find a way to open my mouth. Thank you all.