I'm a 31 year old female and my T is male and probably 45-ish. Last week, after 15 or so sessions, he gently steered the conversation onto first sexual experiences. I was trying to be an adult about it and not look away from him/blush too much but it was a difficult topic of conversation!
Truthfully, this is something I need to talk about because early bad experiences have definitely affected how I am sexually in my current (6 year) relationship. But I just find it so hard, particularly with the gender/age dynamic that I have with my T. Generally I find having a male T better in almost every way, but talking about sex is pretty excruciating. I also worry I will end up embarrassing him, stupid as that sounds.
How do you guys deal with this topic in therapy? Or am I just being really immature - after all, it's a normal part of being human and we all do it.
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