Sometimes it's best to not protect our children form learning about how people really are. They need to be able to look at what people do & judge them by their actions all through life so that they learn to protect themselfs as they grow up. It is sad when it is the father that is the jerk, but it is important for children to know their parents for what they really are.....just like any other people in the world around them.

It's not like you are trying to tell your child that your ex is something that he isn't.....I would tend to let my child see exactly what the ex really is like & let my child learn to judge for himself about the father so he can make his own choices as to if he wants to see him.

But I have a tough outlook on people & feel they don't deserve anything more that they get for being who they are at times

Debbie