I think I would go ahead "sue" her for what she owes you at this time. She is just trying to push you as far as you will let her......get the let her. She thinks at this time she is in control & that is the postion you need to be in especially with a person like her. At this point when she treats you like that.....she is just another person....& doesn't deserve the position of being your daughter.

I wouldn't let her push you around one moment longer....it's wrong & the more she gets away with, the more she will just do it in the future & will continue to make you feel more horrible as the years pass.

When family acts like that, it is time to treat them like any other person....no longer like family since she isn't treating you like family. A lot of times, once they realize they can't get away with acting that way, it makes a difference.

Hope you can be strong enough to deal tough with her,
Debbie