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Old Mar 05, 2016, 04:20 PM
Hopelesspoppy Hopelesspoppy is offline
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Originally Posted by BudFox View Post
If so i'm not clear what the client is paying for. Also much of the marketing promotes the image of therapist as sage or shaman, less flawed than the rest of us. I believe Freud himself conceived of the relationship as superior-inferior.

And owing to the therapist's inscrutability, the client has a difficult task in judging the truth of this or anything really.
I suggest that therapists, despite their training, are as prone to "triggers" as we are. Yes, their profession is marketed just like that of any doctor, they promote their ability to "heal" our psychic ailments much like my GP can sell me on antibiotics for strep.

Somehow, I triggered something within him. I possess no extraordinary or superior qualities, but I am undoubtedly "different", which is fine by me but, looking back, he was in heavy transference very early on and way before I was.

I had also been referred to him by a female friend who had been through several therapists but found him to be the first who she didn't feel was coming on to her. I am very intuitive but I ignored the increasingly obvious seduction, eventually just playing dumb, for a couple of years until the elephant in the room was suffocating. I have to credit him with honesty - at that time - but my faith in his truthfulness quickly unraveled.

Point is, I believe he caught himself eventually, either through peer consultation or a showdown with his wife. I, who was the one to shut down the idea of sexual consummation, became the enemy.

There began the roller coaster of love and rage that lasted until finally I could not do it anymore. Too much harm done to ever go back.

I would love to have his side of the story....but I am resigned to the fact that even if I reported him I would never get that.
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