I think it was good that you just vented what you did above. If you read something here at PC about narcissists, take into consideration that this site has a large number of individuals that have been victims of individuals that treated them badly and tend to label these individuals as narcissists. Yes, there are lots of articles about narcissists, as a matter of fact I have posted some myself.

I think for you though, because you have been labelled that, you take it personally. However, that same "anger" happens to take place with "any" label that is criticized and thought of as "bad or less than". I happened to watch a Bill Mahar show on HBO last night and they were saying all kinds of nasty things about Republicans making fun of them, and people who are republicans can say some mean things about Liberals too.

Then I go and sit down with my therapist and vent about how bad people can be and his response is, society has become very narcissistic. So when you say, "More times than none these people who tend to have so many Ns in their lives leads me to believe that said individual has problems of their own." Bingo, you have it.

"Is it that simple that you truly believe that all with NPD don't want to be better? To find help in something they feel is impossible?" you ask? The fact that you are even asking that is important because from my understanding most with NPD don't.

First of all the beginning of getting better/improving comes when one allows their wall to come down and admit some of their vulnerabilities. That is hard for anyone to do never mind someone with NPD. The individual that is interested in reducing what they feel as impossible to change motem of operations for them has to look at what they really operate off of and try to change these behavior patterns so they can slowly learn how they can actually let go a bit and survive and make progress.

You need to find the things that stress you the most and work on developing ways of reducing whatever part "you" play in these stressors. Your development of NPD has come from trauma so that is why I suggested working with a trauma specialist.