I'm a 30 year old female and T is a 42 year old male. He is also super cute! It's definitely awkward, but T helps by kind of lightening the mood when needed. If he sees I'm struggling he'll step in with a personal story, or a story about a friend or other client. That kind of helps break the ice for me. He also shows me that he's totally open to talking about whatever. He doesn't get nervous which helps me not get nervous. He also reminds me that I only need to go into as much detail as I want.

I guess my advice would be to start talking about it. If you're having trouble saying certain words or phrases say that you're having trouble. T should then step in and help out.

At the beginning I would talk about it as if a friend told me the story. So I'd say something like, "my friend told me that when she was younger her brother touched her." It's a bit childish and we both knew I was talking about myself, but distancing it from myself helped. He'd ask me questions like "what were you feeling when your friend told you this?" "How do you feel about your friend today? Did that story change your opinion of her?"

I slowly started to be able to talk about it in the first person, but that step was really important to help me have some empathy for myself and also talk about sex things with T without being too embarrassed at first.