When I first got married 32 years ago, my husband loved the putting down people & sarcastic jokes like the comedian of the times Don Rickels. I listened to my husbands crap for a few months & finally had enough.

I just told him that I detested that type of humor & I wasn't going to put up with it any more. I couldn't stand the comedian & didn't intend to live with anyone like that for the rest of my life. Everytime he came out with the scarcism, & pointed in out that he was being an obnoxious jerk....until he finally started listening. I didn't take the put down jokes or scarcastic comments personally.....but everytime he came out with putting down & sarcastic comments/jokes & told him to stop being an obnoxious jerk....& I mean everytime he did it....even if it was infront of other people. He decided that he was the one that was starting to look bad & at least that was one of the bad things he did change.

It's a matter of you being in control & not letting him be in control with what he says....also not taking it personally, but letting him know that his behavior is now acceptible socially.

Give it a try....you can't loose anything since it isn't ok the way it's going,
Debbie