I remember my Grandmother being like that too....only even worse. She would try to control everything & then she would get down to nit picking about things.....you have a blemish on your skin or one ear lobe is a bit larger than the other (not really that, but similar things). She got so anoying that I couldn't stand to be around her. The sad thing was that she ended up with alzheimers & just totally lost it......don't know if that was a warning sign or not.

My gramps was the sweetest person in the world...& why he was stuck with her it beyond me......but I finally got to the point when she treated my Mother bad one time, I told her off & let her know under no uncertain terms that if she didn't change, no one would be seeing her in the future & we would only visit with Gramps.

Doesn't sound like your grandmother is that bad, but you need to let her know that you don't need her protection....but that you appreciate her caring, but try to show it in a way that won't hurt you so bad.....maybe if she knows that what she does is hurting you, she will quit.

Debbie