I'm so sorry things are in such turmoil! First get your mental and physical health in order. At least that was the first thing I focused on when I started Medical Leave. I wanted to just leave my job, since I couldn't do it safely any more, too much chaos made me too chaotic! But, I'm still on leave, and starting a new part-time job on Monday.

When you're ready to start a job search get your resume and cover letter in good shape. Have someone remind you of all your professional strengths--my daughter helped me. A job search plan helps, too. About references, since I didn't tell my employer I was looking for work, I asked my 2 friends to be my personal references. The only ones I have left really. That worked fine, along with a kick-*** new resume and cover letter. I had 2 jobs not in my field to pick from. It's scary to see things fall apart, but I think it can also be a chance for something really good, and not just career related. Keep us posted on your progress.