((Confused)) ((Perna))

Hey, I am having similar feelings of abandonment and communication problems with T.

One of the things I realized was similar to something Perna said. Whenever T uses certain words, or questions me in a certain way, it feels like an attack. I feels exactly like something my brother used to do in an abusive way. T had/has no way of knowing this without my discussing it with him. So I have and I will again tomorrow. Yes, it's such a difficult and duplicitious position to be in, having to tell T our needs while feeling they are not meeting our needs!

Confused, you did not push him away, it seems that he feels close enough to you to be open with you. Please let him know you feel abandoned and need his responsiveness right now. How about asking for a short phone call in between the two sessions to sustain you?