I think I've not detached from a past BF from years ago. I've not dated since then and though T and I haven't talked about the relationship, I can feel it has some impact on our therapy process. I've been in paternal transference for a while now, and think I've attached to T, but not absolutely sure. I have always intended to talk to T about this ex-BF (T knows about him), but we've been heavily into trying to deal with other issues lately.

Attachment issues abound here on PC, but I've never seen mention of anyone possibly not detaching from a former romantic relationship. Is failure to detach it's own problem, or is it lumped into attachment theory (couldn't find evidence of this in my research).

A related question...can one attach to T based on a past romantic relationship? I haven't noticed this as a topic here, either.

Thoughts? Opinions?