I don't think people choose to be miserable. Some people just fail to do the adjustments necessarily to live happily. I also don't think society is bad, but it is structured in a certain way that alienates some people because they are different and don't fit what the collective society perceives as "normal". These are unspoken messages received. That is why I think people perceive society as cold and not empathetic. Not because no one tries to help. If I cry for help probably I will find many responses at the time, but if I stayed at my home after that for years, or spent all my time alone probably no one would care. Which makes sense, because people assume you are OK and satisfied and don't need help. But people are sometimes pushed to isolate themselves because of what is desirable and what it is not. People don't need help, but need to feel accepted and embraced despite their struggles. But society sends those implied messages "sort out your struggle first and then we will accept you", which, again, makes sense, but for others it doesn't.