@Artchic528: I respectfully disagree. People have the right to pursue and find love. If you are happy by yourself it is your choice, and good for you, but it is not necessarily the choice for everyone. It is not for me. It is not enough to have your life together. You need to do more steps to find love. People don't just spot you while working from or staying at home. Others are willing to invest in relationships to find the return multiplied. I do. Of course if we cannot find a relationship, we have no choice but to accept ourselves and our current situation and find something else to distract us, but that doesn't mean to stop pursuing love altogether and accept the fact of living alone permanently. Another point is that you are about half the age of Macd123, so he's spent enough time by himself, and he doesn't need more time by himself to know himself and have his life together. I don't think so. In general the idea of having your life together before finding someone is not so appealing to me, because relationships are a place of and an opportunity for mutual growth. If people waited to be perfect before getting into a relationship, they would never get into one. This is my opinion, and I respect yours