I have cut ties with my mom for the most part I call her every once in a while. I cut ties with my mom due to the fact that I am tired of trying to have a relationship with my mom when she makes no effort to have one with me. I moved out on my own almost 4 years ago and moved in with my now fiance. Him and I were living in an apartment at first my mom never came over one time. We have a house now and have since October of last year and my mom and step dad keep saying oh we are going to come see your house and not once have they showed up to see it. Also when I call my mom sometimes she isn't home due to being at work which I understand but I leave messages with my step sister or step dad to have her call me back and she never does. On the off chance I call and she is home she rushes off the phone and makes some lame excuses like she is cooking dinner. I talk all the time while cooking dinner. Also I am getting married to my fiance in August and my mom has not once asked if she could go wedding dress shopping with me or if there was anything she could do to help with the wedding. My fiance's mom and step dad are helping with all the planning. My mom is now in her 40s she had me young. If my mom doesn't change her ways when she gets older to the point she needs help in life she will be going to a nursing home. I know that sounds harsh but it's true. Not saying my story is the same as yours is with your daughter. I just offered my story because I wanted to show you that not all children who leave their mothers behind are bad. I don't know if anything in my life applies to why your daughter as not contacted you in a while. I will say this though no child has a duty to care for an aging parent if it is a toxic relationship. The phone works both ways honey. If you call your daughter and get no answer than at least you can say you tried which is more than my mother can say. The only time I hear from my mom unless I call her is when she wants to nag at me for something I did that she doesn't agree with. Try to understand what your daughter is feeling may be she feels like why should she make an effort to have a relationship with you when you don't make the same effort to have one with her.