Well, that is the message I took away from Artchic a few weeks ago. Granted, today it did sound like Artchic was a little sour on relationships, and it doesn't help to have the attitude that they are more trouble they they are worth.

I am also not saying that being single cannot be very lonely, and other negative things. However, my thought is that in order to make the future one has to work on the now. If one sits around drinking -- why would anyone be attracted to someone who did that?

It isn't about correcting every flaw. I think people are attracted to someone who is engaged with life. And someone who takes care of themselves. For instance, you might not have the most expensive wardrobe, but people will notice that you are well-groomed, and with clothes clean and pressed.

How many times have people said..."I wasn't looking for love but love found me"? That's probably because they maybe did give up a little on being desperate, and just started to enjoy where they were. This has happened to me in the past.