The best part of being alone after all these years of living in a dysfunctional relationship is that you can NOW. Learn who you are, what your values really are & learn to live around real functional people as you get involved in community activities. Don't go looking for someone to fill the void!!!! You need to spend time really learning who you are & all the capabilities you have other than giving your life to a dysfunctional husband.

Be thankful he finally left & gave you the freedom you deserved long before now.

Yes it's difficult not having someone to share a "did you see that?" or "look at this"......but one soon gets over that....it is all part of a grieving process but in the end we feel thankful for the loss.

Maybe it was easier for me because I was the one who finally got fed up & left but then I wasn't co-dependent which is something that most pushes of alcoholics end up growing to be & an issue that good therapy can help with. I was married for 33 years before finally leaving the bad marriage I was in. It wasn't an alcoholic situation but it was his inability to ever grow up or have an emotional connection. I knew I was miserable but not as much as I realized after I finally left.

You will get through the grieving & be more happy than you ever had & wonder why you put up with it so long