No one has children in our family.

Part of our emotional abuse was the constant reminder from our mother how she wished she'd never have kids.

I enjoyed a healthy sex life until I married. It's not that we don't connect it's that he is completely asexual. Doesn't need or want it.

Funny ( sad) thing is one reason I got married was so I wouldn't be multiple partners in sex. I thought one good guy I could devote all of my sexual energy with.

Backfire big time.

I will not divorce him for this as he has 1000's of other good qualities.

But in my imagination I feel abandoned hurt and needy.

If someone asked me if they should marry an asexual person, I'd say NO.

But it's been 20 years together for us now.