Hi 1976kitchenfloor,
Unfortunately, since this site is a peer to peer support site, we don't offer professional help. Even if we have professionals as members, they are here as peers and cannot/don't act in a professional manner.
I'm sorry that you are having to deal with the fear of doctors and not being able to trust them. The best thing I can suggest is to find a doctor who seems compassionate and willing to listen (I know, few and far between it seems). They are out there, it just takes time to find them. Word of mouth is sometimes a good way to find someone. Also, you can interview them as well as they work for you in their capacity.
Maybe having a list of things you are looking for in a doctor and going over that list with one would be helpful to you? Just a thought.
I wish I could be more helpful to you. I wish you well!