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Plus, some people here have written about how jealous they are of their T's wife or loved ones, that they can't stand to think of their T with his wife, etc.

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Hi.

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Along similar lines, there are people who seem to be jealous of their T's other clients.

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Hello again.



My T has other clients?

Yeah, I've told him that I hate his wedding ring. I told him that there is a "mess of transference." I told him that I once imagined a scenario in which he terminates a couple of other patients so that I could have more frequent sessions. I flat-out told him that I idealized him. (Wow, I just found out that if you list all of the embarassing things you have told your T, in a row, it makes you feel really, really stupid. C'mon! Try it!)

So yeah, I harbor a lot of erotic transference towards him. I knew that. He knows that. Do we talk about it? Of course not.

I don't know why I have to hate every single person that he associates with outside of me. I don't know. The transference is so intense that I feel strangely drawn towards men I see that look like him. Not that I do anything... I'm just saying, it's a feeling.

I used to see him as a total object. This has lessened a bit since he began to disclose feelings, tell me stories, etc. It makes him more human.... which helps the erotic transference stuff a little-- but not a whole lot. I would imagine the briliant idea of talking about it might help but as of right now that's just out of the question.

Thanks for posting, Alex.