Which parent screwed you up the most (and how)?

What is it you are your parents (forever) thankful for?

My father (pretty much as far removed from BP as is possible without being considered in some other pervasive way disordered) definitely screwed me up most. He clearly must the winner.

My mother (I know few who are as functional with untreated BP(D) as she) screwed me up by her high expressed emotion, anger outbursts, and unrelenting conviction about what is best for me.

I am forever thankful they screwed me up like they did, being who I am now.

I thank my father with expecting from and teaching me, a rationality, giving me rational mind, that is rivalled by few.

I thank my mother for showing and teaching me how to talk about my emotions and for always giving me the needed support (with the exception of my early depressive years, a depression which she denies in herself as much as she missed it in me).

I thank both for financially supporting me when times were bad.

With the help of much-needed meds, I feel they have let me have my cake and eat it too.

How nice, joyfully freeing, it is too have experienced so much and to leave it all behind.