I think both my parent screwed up equally in their own ways.
My parents are both very controlling, paranoid and manipulated me so I could be the perfect child which worked (because I idolised them), until I got sick, then things started falling apart. I was never allowed to date, even now I would never dream it (I'm 22) because studies are no.1. I was always top 5 in my district, have never smoked, drank, been clubbing or even kissed a guy! I have lived a very sheltered life which was part of the problem because once I started staying on my own I didn't know what to do because I always relied on my parents. They manipulated me into doing medicine, a career I clearly hated, and now I left halfway through the degree, my dad is clearly disappointed but I'm only human too (and also very unstable due to my illness). My dad always had a huge stigma against my mum for her depression, so I hid that I was severely depressed for years too. I could go on and on but at least now they are trying to make up for their mistakes, even though they still slip up once in a while.