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Old Mar 06, 2016, 02:53 PM
Zbeara Zbeara is offline
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Originally Posted by ScientiaOmnisEst View Post
I have no trauma in my life, nothing meaningfully bad. I've never suffered except for things created by my own mind - I've had depressive symptoms since I was maybe 10, thought about suicide for the first time around age 11, but it's all born of self-hatred. Nothing deep or thoughtful. My mom used to tell me I brought it on myself, more or less, that I felt bad and guilty because I was lazy in school or something.

My moods get more erratic as I get older, but there can't be anything wrong because I had an abuse-free, trauma-free childhood. I have no business being unstable, being depressed. It's weak and entitled. Everything I do is weak and entitled. Even my leaving home less than a year ago was an act of spoiled-princess entitlement, I had no right to leave.

But I digress. Nothing happened to me that warrants my being depressed or unstable.
Oh...actually, that's what I used to think too. The only reason I realized there were actually deeper problems was because **** hit the fan. Sometimes the main problem could just be poor communication. Depression is serious. There's a lot behind depression and a lot of different causes. Basically what modern psychology is discovering is that if you're ever depressed there is always a good reason. Even if it's that you are naturally depressed.

It doesn't have to be traumatic. Being told that you have a problem with being weak and entitled when you don't is kind of a problem. It might go deeper than you think :/ I've thought about suicide too. In fact, I used to think I was doing it out of attention, but I realized what was happening was that the thought would cross my mind, I would unconsciously think "oh I had that thought. If I let people know, then they might realize I'm actually depressed", so I would exaggerate it. So it started in a real place, and got blown out of proportion. It was a cry for help.

I have done a lot of thinking lately and tried to find out where everything I did was coming from in an objective way. I had to separate myself from my feelings and think of it as if I were looking in as someone else, rather than being a part of a problem. And I learned a LOT. That's why I've started going to therapy. Because I found the places where I truly couldn't work through it myself.

I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time with this. And everything above is just my thoughts about life and stuff. I know that yours might come from a different place. I really do know how you feel :/

Last edited by notz; Apr 05, 2016 at 10:12 PM.
Thanks for this!
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