well were for me to start. i was raped by my boyfriend (at the time we'll call him D.)on my 16th birthday. I stayed with him for 4 months afterward, I believed him when he said it wouldn't happen again. When things ended I got back together with a guy i dated just before. We had been together for 2 years before I started dating D. Anyway. I was still 16 and very depressed, then on day I woke up and went on a sex rampage. My boyfriend and I were having sex up to 3times a day. I didn't tell him about the rape. Now we are engaged and still dealing with the trauma of my 16th birthday. When your with someone that you love and you feel safe with. It's ok. I say follow your heart and your head when they both say the same thing its right. If one says yes and the other no wait.