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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I felt attractive as young as I can remember. I used to like to dress up in grown up clothes, costumes, and put on shows singing and dancing. People would say I was so cute.
Then I had a really homely stage from 7 to 13. I got made fun of. This did a lot of psychological damage to my self esteem.
By 14, I started getting shapely and better-looking. Boys started showing interest.
So, I guess I liked myself from the start, which was reinforced by other's approval. Then people's reactions to me dictated how sure I felt about myself.
I am not especially attractive, but when I do hair, make up, and clothes, and act with confidence and sensuality, people find me very attractive.
As for body shaming-- yes, hurtful things were said to me by people, even by supposed friends. But men didn't care about my flaws enough to not have sex with me. They even said they liked my features that I know are very unattractive.
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It's interesting I used to love dressing up a lot and always felt attractive yet no guys weren't interested. Got the casual looks checking me out but no one gave a number. very few guys gave new a number I turned them down anyway.
Men told me I wasn't Halle Berry or Kim K thus made me ugly and rated me on a scale on looks - my looks to them were between a 6-8 on a scale of 1-10; 10 being hot. I don't know women tell me I need to do something to my hair, what does that have anything to do with me? Not all women want their hair down and about. I used to love wearing my hair down when I was a kid and self esteem took its toll on me.
I didn't have any boyfriends only a couple that was it. I was with guys who always told me "they felt sorry for me" whatever the **** that meant is beyond me. It's still a hard *** struggle....