Hello harry32: I'm sorry you are struggling with this. Probably the best thing to do here is to see a psychiatrist, or other mental health professional. They can help you figure out what is going on & suggest treatments for it. From what you wrote, it sounds as though this situation is causing you quite a bit of anxiety. And anxiety tends to feed on itself. You feel anxiety... & then you start to feel anxious about the fact that you're anxious. It can spiral out of control. And stress can cause things such as the talking & yelling you mentioned. Please take care...