Hi Spal,

Thanks for writing.

I was the primary bread-winner in our family for 17 of our 34 year marriage. I used to make $58,000/yr. until five years ago.

After having my "position eliminated", we moved to rural Kansas, b/c we were able to pay cash for our scenic 18 acres and rustic farmhouse bungalow. It is truly beautiful, with rolling hills trees, and two ponds nestled side-by-side. We were given "free" horses in March.

However, the downside is there are very few jobs here. While I have an MBA, I am now 60.

We had adopted an older, severely emotionally disturbed child when I was still with my Fortune 500/1000 company, and our former home. The severity of her mental illness was not properly disclosed to us.

When we had to put the house on the market due to the loss of my job, she spun out of control. It reminded her of the all the times she had moved with her bio-family. We were no longer able to safely manage her in our home, and returned her to the State of Kansas.

I am still heart-broken from the loss.

As many here have heard many times, husband has refused to move. With our very large menagerie, my limited support system I have remained stuck to date.

My closest friend and cousin, who are on the east coast both support my staying with my husband.

EJ