Precisely. I like support, but there is a thin line that can be crossed over where one starts to feel patronized. I responded really for one reason and one reason only -- and that was to say drinking is a bad solution. As for all the rest...you will figure it out. I take back any advice I gave you except just don't drink. lol. PS For those who point to their parents or other people they know...maybe wait until you get there to give advice. There is a stigma attached to aging that one must work hard to overcome. One has to work hard to not give into it. Being alone when aging is absolutely tough...and to bring up other people who are married and aging is missing this person's whole point. Being single as one ages is its own ballgame. It takes a unique kind of strength and well, it ain't for sissies. So please, everyone, stop giving examples of other married people who are aging and how they do it. That is not this person's situation.