Ugh. That is awful. But you're right, and deep down I realize that. It's amazing that, as cynical as I know I am, I can be so naive in some areas. I think that I want to keep some areas of my life cynicism-free. I do think (going with my non-cynical side) if I dig deeply into this situation, the other person IS doing the best that they know how to do with what they have to do it with just as I am. That doesn't mean that they aren't a bit shytti. And that doesn't mean that they wouldn't be aware of their own BS if you held it to their face. It just means that a lot of people come from less-than-ideal backgrounds and all of us have been hurt in one way or another. And sometimes our hurts bump against each other.

I'm really trying to keep this in mind rather than allow it to make me bitter, because I've dealt with this kind of man before and I'm so tired of them trying to work out their issues through online dating.