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Originally Posted by divine1966
Well you clearly have emotional intelligence as you show it in your posts quite often. It just might not come easy to you and require more work than for some other people but it is there. Also if you come across nasty but realized it later then just apologize to people and explain what's going on. I apologize to people a lot as I tend to be rather too blunt at times. People typically are understanding
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I do apologize to people, but people only put up with so much. What I have typically experienced (QUITE often) is that, when they get fed up with me, they are just gone. No explanation, nothing. My best friend from school, I think, is doing this. She just suddenly stopped responding to my texts. I sent her one a few days ago apologizing for being an azz and telling her that I realized I was being selfish in my demands for her time. Nothing. Not even a "Yes, you're right. I need space." Nothing. She still has me as a friend on FB, and I'm thinking I should just give her space. What angers me is that I've had at least 5 people do this to me. Probably more. I know I can be overwhelming when I spiral. And I'm not pushing blame onto the other person for my actions. However...I do think it's crappy to just fall off the face of the earth on a friend, especially when you know they have abandonment issues. When someone is overstepping bounds on me, I state my boundaries plainly and without malice, and ask for the space I need. I don't know if it's just a coincidence, and because I tend to get into friendships with the same types of personalities (who don't do conflict), or if I'm just
that bad. I feel like a shytti person because of it, though.