Hello all,

I'm a shy man who is relatively successful in education and work, and who has some personal interests like riding the bike, reading, cooking, playing video games (if that counts), walking, watching movies, ... etc. However, I have difficulties making relationships. As you can see my interests are mostly private, I prefer to do them alone, and they don't involve other people. Even if there are other people around me, say in the movies, I won't talk to any one. Also in my workplace meeting someone is out of question. I've tried online dating sites, but didn't work. I'm sure you can see the dilemma by now: how to find someone while you're that reserved? Do some women even like shy men, or they are perceived negatively by all women? I know I need to approach some women and try, but I always become nervous around women, and my voice and hands will be shaking. Yes, it's that bad, and I guess these are not good signs for women, but do women understand that it's difficult for some men to make the move, or they expect men to be confident before approaching them? I'm not that bad in talking after knowing the person and feel more relaxed. The beginnings are just the hardest.

Thanks