Thread: Epiphany
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Old Mar 07, 2016, 04:20 AM
Anonymous37925
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I've had lots, but one that jumps straight in my mind is coming to understand the transference with T1. When I was with him he refused to talk about transference so I never explored why I felt so strongly about him.
When my current T first suggested I could have had maternal transference towards a male T I had a strong negative reaction and rejected it, but the more I thought of it the more sense it made.
I had started seeing him shortly after my mother's death, since I started seeing him I started dreaming about being in therapy with her. Our relationship was playing out just like my relationship with my mother - he was over disclosing and I was caring about him and protecting him from my feelings. My feelings seemed unacceptable to him in some way and I ended up passive aggressive and angry at him all the time. And then leaving him was heartbreaking. It hurt more than my mother's death, and I realised that was because I hadn't allowed myself to grieve for my mother and I had transferred everything, including the grief, to that relationship. It all made sense, and discovering it and working through the feelings has allowed me to heal and move on.
Thanks for this!
Out There, yagr