If you tend to be negative it would explain why people avoid you. I am not saying it's the right thing of them to do but negative attitude is not very pleasant to be around. Unless one most stick around ( like immediate family) people will limit interactions with negative people.

As about men I had tendency to get attracted to negative men ( no secret why as my dad is negative), then getting fed up with their negativity and other bs and leave them , my goal was to stop getting attracted to them to begin with, luckily I broke the pattern.

I don't think that being optimistic is somehow would make landing harder should things go sour. I experienced many hardships in life yet I always do just fine at the end and I think it's precisely because I focus on the positive, I really don't see how focusing on negative is helpful in hardships. Actually negative people crash pretty hard in my experience. Much harder than those who see the world is generally a happy place.

I do have a friend who is very negative, we work together but do things outside of work. She knows she is negative and she kind of relies on me to give her reality check ( we laugh about it as she makes me promise to keep her in check lol). We are good friends and I can handle her but no way I'd want to be with her more than certain amount of time. She actually has another friend who is just like her. We spend time together all three ( have mutual hobby). I think they keep me around to elevate their moods. They are nice people and I like them a lot or I would not spend any time with them but negativity is draining. At the end of the day I am glad i don't have to live with any of them and can go home.

Would you t work with you on developing more positive views on life? Or you think it's ingrained?

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