I feel silly posting this, but I used to have a best friend, K. She had very similar mental problems as me (although hers was depression). She happened to live quite close and her daughter was good friends with mine.

When she was inpatient, I visited her constantly. I brought her books. I offered to help with her kids. That sort of thing.

When I was inpatient, she basically ignored me. No offer to help. No visit. Nothing.

We used to meet weekly for lunch. Recently she's been busy with school, plans with other friends, unable to meet until weeks out, busy with her kids, that sort of thing. She kept cancelling on me.

I was pretty upset and called her and asked if she was mad at me, and she promised she wasn't, it was just she was so busy.

I was passive aggressive and cancelled a lunch date with her. Told her we should reschedule it. Never heard back from her.

She and her husband have a party every year. I've gone for close to 9 years. I didn't get an invitation this year.

I am hurt. I know I contributed to the problem by cancelling on her and waiting to return her phone calls for a day or two. But not getting invited felt like a slap in the face. I had grown to know and like the other people who were always there.

Maybe she didn't have it this year. Or maybe she dumped me.

We trade kid's clothes, and we have a massive bag of her clothes she lent us and other clothes that we bought that just don't fit. My husband texted her about dropping them off. She said ok, but that's all.