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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
I think the oat valuable lesson I have learned from therapy and training to be a t is that ts are extremely flawed, wounded and injured. It's when they don't recognise those wounds and act out of them defensively, that's were the damage gets done.
I think a good t will be aware of when they are being triggered enough to know they can't help a client and should refer before the damage is done.
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I wonder if the part that I bolded ^ could/"should" be included as part of the disclaimer Ts give to clients initially going into therapy?
Many of us here have had bad experiences, that's why we're here. If the Ts I had seen had been aware of how they were being triggered -- even if they could have just said "I'm being triggered. Can we take some time out here?" that would have helped a lot, I think.
I was so dissociated going into therapy initially I didn't even understand triggering very well. I mostly just froze when sensitive areas were "touched". So a lot of my therapy has been to get unfrozen. But then, when the long-dead, paralyzed, frozen parts came back to "life" they were very intense and . . . I guess from what I have learned now . . . triggered the T's and I ended up feeling guilty, shamed, or otherwise unacceptable. The very results that led me to dissociating in the first place, it seems.
Consequently it's been a very long time that I've been in (failed after failed) therapy. I think it would have helped if I could have been cognitively warned ahead of time. I didn't know enough in the beginning to research this a lot, plus I started over 50 years ago in a hospital with a (life-threatening) eating disorder. In my experience, most therapists I've seen have NOT been aware when they were triggered. And I didn't understand that's what was happening either. So I had no defense from the (repeated) shame, blame, guilt.