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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
Seriously! I reverted to talking about ex-T today just so I had something to talk about. It was nothing new. No insight. Same old, same old.
My life isn't bad right now. I mean there's problems, but nothing that needs to be talked about in therapy. Like why would I talk about my fiance not being able to find a job? It sucks. But we're fine. Family is supporting us financially. One of my dogs is sick, but that's not new. She's been sick for 4 years. My fiance and I haven't fought in a long time. Things btwn my mom and I are well. I have no life really, so nothing is really bothering me.
Now I am in a depressive episode. It's not too bad thanks to my meds. I'm over sleeping, lacking energy, hopeless thoughts. But there's no SI or SUI thoughts. So again, not much to talk about.
And it's weird. This never happened with ex-T. I had more than enough to talk about with her.
Even my emailing has stopped with current T because of how little I have to say!
Should I quit therapy? Reduce? Both are a scary thought and trigger my attachment/abandonment issues.
What do you do when there's nothing to talk about?
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I had a conversation with T about how I feel like I've got nothing to say and end up just chit chatting.
T said, but it's not just chit chat. It's a another bit of the puece if me it's a part of the whole.
She said everything I have to say is important. It's not just about what I say, it's how I present as I speak, it's a way of communicating something that might just be out of awareness. She said it may feel disconnected to therapy, but it's part of it.
It's about being willing to allow all these things to happen in the room. It's absolutely nothing to do with paying someone just to chit chat. I'm sorry for others who have never had a skilled therapist that can explain these things.
Whether you quit or not cannot be decided by anyone on here. Nor should they give you advice based on their half knowledge.doctors we are not.