Hello RedMountains: I see this is your first post. Welcome to PsychCentral. I'm sorry you are in this most difficult situation. From what you wrote, it sounds like you did the right thing. It's so unfortunate you now must suffer the consequences. Hopefully as time goes by, your son will come around. But he is an adult & must make his own choices, even if they turn out to have been wrong in the end. My best wishes to you.