Oh boy - I'm sober so that is always the best thing! I've had so much going on between work and my sister getting divorced.

This past Saturday I had to kick my nephew out. He's been living with me a couple of months because his father was being so mean to him and he was between jobs. He was suppose to pay $50 a week board but with his unemployment not coming in (still can't figure out why) I really only got money three times. I didn't care about that because I paid the rent without him here, but he was also using electricity and eating my food.

Anyhow, he started a job at a huge company nearby on Aug 6th. He would be in training a couple of weeks and then finish probation in 90 days. He decided a couple weeks ago he was going to move from RI to Key West Fl where a friend of his lives. So he was going to work a couple of weeks to get more money for gas, etc. and then leave.

Well to make a long story short apparently he is still a liar. He said that when he gave his notice on Aug 27th they told him not bother with his notice. So now he said he was going to sell his car and get a plane ticket to Florida. He lied about alot of stuff, but also that he really got fired on Aug 20th and that's why he was going to suddenly sell the car instead of driving down.

He finally gave me some money last Thursday. On Friday night I was checking a credit card on line because I was getting my hair cut and didn't have enough money when I discovered that he "borrowed" my credit card. There were charges from last Thursday and Friday for area gas stations, grocery store, and mini mart that weren't mine. One was a coffee shop for $2.15, then there were two mini mart charges for $5 change which was probably for cigerettes.

I was so disappointed and hurt but not crying or obsessing over it. It was difficult but I left him a note Saturday morning when I went out (he never came home Friday night) and I told him to pack his stuff, leave me the key, and go because I couldn't trust him. I left him a copy of the charges for him to see. My sister was here when he came home and she came over. He was sputtering and swearing (not denying it, just swearing that everyone was on him). She told him she couldn't believe he was doing this to someone who was helping him and that these places have cameras. When she said that he stopped swearing and she just left.

So he was gone by the time I got home. Tonight I went to go pull out the boxed set of the RoseAnne show that I just bought and it's gone. I went next door to ask my niece if she borrowed it but she said she saw Rye with it that he was taking it to Jay's a few weeks ago. Well, a few weeks ago he was selling his dvd's to get money for cigerettes! This was a brand new set still in the plastic so I know where it went.

The hardest part is that when he was a teenager I lived in the in-law apartment that my sister had in her house. He was totally out of control and stole alot from me and his friends vandalized my car. When he defended his friends I told him that he burned his bridges and don't ever ask me for anything again.

As the years went by he still had difficulty but he had been living on his own, and held a job for 4 years which was nothing short of miraculous. So I thought he had changed, sadly I was mistaken.

I'm praying for him and that he finds the help he desperately needs. I'm not going to take his inventory but he could use AA or NA as well.

With all that going on, a 20 year old girl that I have been bringing to the morning meeting got arrested for posession (crack $30 worth), driving on a suspended license, and resisting arrest. She was very lucky that they put her in rehab and not sent her straight to jail (she is on probation from a DUI 6 months ago). She is a really good kid, very bright, was even holding a 4.0 in college through the dui stuff this year.

So yesterday I agreed to be her new sponsor. I was kinda tough on her. I told her the basics don't drink, go to meetings, NO guys (she has an issue with that). I said that I wouldn't tell her what and what not to do, but if she was doing something that I felt was dangerous I would ask her to stop and if she doesn't I would not sponsor her.

This morning I brought her to the meeting and got her to sit through the whole thing which was tough because she always goes out half way through for a cigerette. I noticed around the time she would usually go, she started crying so I think this is good - she may be able to get in touch with whatever is holding her back in the program.

Sorry to ramble! I went to breakfast with my sponsor today so that I could unload a little. I'm very spiritually connected right now and hope it lasts - one day at a time.

Tranquility