My relationship has been strong, healthy, happy and secure, yet I too still struggle with this demon at times.

Admittedly, it has lessoned the more secure I started feeling, as per Rose's post above.


When I do struggle though (I have BPD), I have a coping mechanism in place that I utilize.


Fact checking, backed up with evidence of course.


I take an inventory of all the evidence (physical or substantial) that proves my BF wants to be with me.


Then I compare that with the substantial evidence that he wants to bolt and is planning his exit.


These latter bits of "evidence" have so far only been in my head. Lol


One other thing that definitely has helped, is that he assured me that if for any reason he is unhappy in our relationship, he will communicate it to me immediately, and he's never BS'd me before, so there's no reason to believe he will start now.


I would also urge you to work on your self esteem, doesn't seem like you have much of that going around, and it really does wonders for us and our relationships.