I'm gay also, and I haven't done the LGBT bar scene in a long time because I'm an alcoholic.

I'm well aware that the gay bar was the only place that gay people could socialize for many decades, but I've often found a glorification of alcohol (and other drugs).

Your husband is right that if you need to have a drink to socialize you should not go to any kind of bar. It sounds like you have a good hubby; listen to him.