(((((((((gerber)))))))))))))
I had some very similar expereinces, and they really, really did my head in. And with my vulnerability, when I get triggered like that, my whole body goes into reaction.

This has made me think............. I left that one who did this, she did a few things that were like moving the goal posts without telling me, - like kind of invisible manoueveres, I felt that didnt respect me as an adult, like she was trying to shake my sense of self. What you have said has reinforced what I belive, that it is damaging when they behave like that. Its almost like they dont know the quality of sensitivity they have reached in us.

I know I'm downloading some of my own feelings here, hope you dont feel I'm taking away from your original share, I do feel a great need to explore my experiences with the help of the people here.

I also thought that was a good letter and would be a good thing to show him. But I know that feeling of loyalty which I also had that made me want to protect him/ her/ the relationship, it happened to me with several. The whole thing is such a sensitive connection.
I had such bad expereinces in therapy because of things like this.
One of them moved my session without telling me when I was away on hol, ........... I tried to explain how wrong it was to do that, he didnt get it, justified himself instead. I was too lost then to persue it and didnt want to waste more of my session.

I want one day to go back, I want to be in a fit state to make my point until its gone home, even if it means battering thier head off the wall (verbally, not literally)

Do you know what your Ts training is? I wonder if its the same as mine had.

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