My heart really goes out to you Melmo. Yes I have dealt with chronic irritability and anger. I had a problem for a long time of breaking inanimate objects. I started to take Celexa and Abilify and that helped. Church has helped some. Lately has been a challenge for me, in going through a long period of discontent. I don't live at home in my hometown now so I don't want to damage other's property, or get kicked out of the house
plus have my cats around, I don't want to scare them. I found in my years of raging it didn't get anything solved, I mean throwing things. It is extremely vital to vent however, to get angry, so anger doesn't turn inwards
The best way in dealing with that I think is to write in a journal expressing yourself to yourself, not being afraid to get your deepest, darkest thoughts out, kind of like carrying on a conversation with yourself. I try to do that when I have the time,.the space and the internet to do that. Sometimes good to vent in here too but any online discussion list runs the risk of cross talk which can make a person angrier that no one's listening. Something you'll want to tread lightly with. I was reading Anger Management for Dummies which had some good advice about the journaling of thoughts.