Thanks. I understand that men need to approach women, but could it work just because a man attempts the approach regardless of how (of course with being polite and not rude)? I'm not sure. You said you wouldn't care if he's nervous, but what does that really mean? Would you try for example to help keep the conversation rolling and make it easier for him? You also made a comparison between shy and arrogant men (by equating confident with arrogant, which I didn't mean).

For shy women the role is passive. I would do much better if someone initiated a talk with me. But for me initiating a conversation, I play all these scenarios in my head, which makes me so nervous, and most of the time to abort the attempt.

By the way, I initiated talks with some women (not necessarily for romantic relationships), but because I needed to kick the initiation every time, I felt that they are not interested, and thus stopped the process after a couple of times. If they were, then they didn't help me. Which is fine, and I understand it, but it's harder for some men to initiate and keep the momentum.